24 Feb 5 Keys for Healing Sex!
One of our favorite sayings at Authentic Tantra is “Sex Is Medicine”.
In fact, that’s the name of our weekly Tantra TV show- Sex As Medicine TV
But the reality is, not every sexual experience we have is going to be considered healing sex.
In fact, as we all know, many sexual experiences we have are quite the opposite.
This is because there are a few key ingredients that must be in place in order to make your ordinary sex become healing sex, which is nourishing for your body, mind, and spirit.
These key ingredients are:
- Open Communication
- Love- which can be interpreted as kindness and caring
- Desire to give
- Willingness to be vulnerable
This beautiful blend of qualities allows your experience to become what we call “healing sex” because they all facilitate deeper connection and intimacy in your relationship.
Connection is the medicine that heals…
According to a book about the Tibetan Five Elements by Tenzin Wangyal Rinpoche, connection strengthens the Earth element within us, which in turn strengthens our life force.
According to the Tibetan Tantric tradition, the Earth element is the antidote to pride and arrogance, and can help heal and resolve self worth issues by instilling within us the awareness of equanimity.
Earth element helps us experience emotional balance in ourselves and in our relationships. It enriches our physical experience by allowing abundance to arise. Abundance of health, wealth, friendships, food, community- all of the wonderful things that make our human experience joyful and complete.
Ensuring these 5 keys are in place allows you to cultivate a profoundly nourishing sexual connection by balancing and enriching your Earth element. How cool is that?
On the other hand, sex without these 5 ingredients can actually be debilitating and harmful.
Now that’s not to say you need to be deeply in love with everyone you have a sexual encounter with.
Humans are motivated to pursue sexual connection for a variety of reasons.
Pleasure, play, and exploration are just a few of the many reasons we may seek out sexual connection with another.
But notice that key word that keeps appearing…connection.
Whether we want to admit it or not, one of the primary motivations for having a sexual experience with another human being IS in fact to meet needs for connection.
Otherwise we can just as easily meet the need for sexual gratification with our own hands or other instruments of pleasure.
There is something profoundly meaningful exchanged when 2 human beings come together to engage in this act we call sex… regardless of whether we are aware of it or not.
So let’s pay attention to what is really going on with our sexual experiences and begin infusing them with some (if not all) of these five key ingredients for turning “ordinary” sex into healing sex.
Watch Marthe Schneider lay out the 5 key ingredients for making sure your ordinary sex becomes healing sex.
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