There is a HUGE difference between a run of the mill masturbation session and a sacred self-pleasure/solo sexual healing session.
Not that there’s anything wrong at all with regular ole masturbation, but if that is all you have ever experienced you are very much missing out on the powerful healing aspects of your solo sexy time.
Solo self-pleasure has been a foundation of Buddhist sexual Tantra from the beginning. There are numerous texts in this tradition which refer to practitioners cultivating their “sexual fire” for advanced solo sexual practices which are referred to as “the inner yogas”.
In fact, the 1st Lama in Tibet was a woman named Yeshe Tsogyal who helped establish Buddhism in Tibet through sexual union practices with her consort, Guru Rinpoche, a.k.a Padmasambhava.
In one particular text Yeshe is described as “covering her naked body with gold dust and stirring her mandala (vulva) with her fingers, while Padmasambhava arose as the great Heruka with his vajra (penis) in hand”.
This is quite literally a description of mutual masturbation between these two enlightened Tantric Yogis.
On that note, there are a few things that differentiate masturbation from sacred self-pleasure.
A few examples are:
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#1 – Make the Time! Solo sexual healing sessions begin in YOUR Mind. You must choose to create the time and space in your life to devote to this healing practice.
We recommend literally scheduling in the time in your calendar. Make a date with yourself and give yourself the gift of undivided attention.
#2- Create sacred space! Creating a sensually pleasing, nurturing environment offers your nervous system the extra support it may need to relax fully.
#3 – Meditate before you masturbate! Ever have trouble focusing on sexual stimulation because your mind is going a mile a minute? Give your mind the opportunity to RELAX and get present IN THE BODY before you attempt to stimulate yourself.
#4 – Breath deeply! The Autonomic Nervous System plays a HUGE role in our sexual function and ability to respond to pleasure. If you are feeling tense or stressed your ANS will most likely be kicked into a fight or flight response. When the ANS is in Fight or flight, even just a little bit, your erectile tissue will not engorge and your sexual functioning will be impaired.
#5 – Follow the pleasure! A major difference between ordinary masturbation and Tantric self-pleasure is the goal. In Tantric self-pleasure, PLEASURE and connection are the goals. NOT orgasm. Orgasm is the body’s natural response to pleasure, so by focusing entirely on pleasure and your connection to yourself through pleasure, you automatically create an environment for healing to occur.
1 – Stroke your entire body (not just your genitals!) to find pleasure zones and focus on them.
2 – Slowly and gradually make your way to genitals, and instead of going right for your known pleasure zones, massage and explore your entire pelvis and genital area. You may discover new areas that had previously been “asleep” or that you had never explored before!
3 – Instead of rushing straight to orgasm, pause to relax and breathe throughout the session. A good rule of thumb is to pause, relax and breathe anytime you feel yourself tensing, or notice you are in your head thinking about something else.
We encourage you to use these 5 steps starting today and let us know what you experience!
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*The Tantra Mastery Training Program does not require approval by the registrar of the private Training Institute Branch (PTIB). As such, the registrar did not review this program.